I have always found it odd that two people would choose to live an entire lifetime together but never share each other's heart. I fear there are many marriages like that.

The divorce rate is TOO high these days. People get married for all the wrong reasons. I could never say "I do" knowing that my marriage is most likely only going to last a few years. I think many people see divorce coming but they get married anyway...just so they can say "hey I was married once"

Having been married more than once I can admit many people find it far easier to think "positive" and "hope" for the best.

The biggest issue with the conversations that occur between people are the things which are often omitted.

I have often thought the "sins of omission" is far worse than people usually think. It is worse than a lie because a lie takes effort. Omission is the act of inaction.

I've never been married but I think I can agree to those statements too.

Motives for marriage vary. When those motives are not the same or even shared it is a recipe for failure.

First husband did not want to die alone and ommited the fact he didn't want children. Imagine my shock to discover I had been his insurance against a lonely death and our children were an annoyance he simply couldn't tolerate.

Pity...that sin of omission effected three lives...and was the most selfish sin of all. He will now die alone. None of us will have anything to do with him.

Some people marry for money, security, or perhaps because it is expected...but the only reason anyone should marry is because they need and want the same things.

I wrote a piece on marriage one day. It was supposed to be short but it ended up TOO long.

Have you ever had those moments, and I’m sure you have, where you see something that touches you so much that you just HAVE to write about it? You don’t want to complain about what you saw you just want to write. I do this all the time. I write about something that irritates me and when my short story or article is done, I just put it too the side...I’m done complaining...now I feel better

Anywho, I saw this couple one day and the selfish attitude of one of them really disturbed me. The man wasn’t perfect but he surely wasn’t like her, he honestly tried to hold his marriage together. I wrote about what I had observed. After I got finished with this long piece I put it too the side and left it there. Long story short on this, is that I actually got a darn script out of that thing. Yeap, I took pieces of it and created a story. Now I’m working on part two of it, which is soooo long to me.

As for the real couple, the motive in that marriage was very clear. She wanted his money and reputation so that she could also become somebody. She used him and then basically threw him away. I think if that woman wanted help with her career then she should have found another way to do so. The only good thing about them is that in the end they didn’t have any children that needed to be dealt with through the courts.

You know I would rather be alone than use someone in that manner. Not being honest can be truly coldhearted and a complete waste of time for the innocent party that truly loves that charlatan that they’re with.

To quote a particularly insightful scene in a Indiana Jones Movie......... "He chose poorly"

I find myself saying that to my kids once in a while.

It is not an "I told you so" sort of thing but more of a "Look at your choice" sort of thing.

Life lessons are rarely painless...and they always involve a choice. Choices ALL have prices. My message to them is to consider the price of a choice and then decide. All too often we are faced with decision and rarely look at the price until it is too late.

I think this man was so blinded by his love for her that he honestly couldn't see just how much he was being used.

That's why I think looks can be a good thing in a relationship, but it should NOT be the main thing. I don't care how handsome or beautiful the other person it, they could still be the devil in disguise.

I love that womans wedding dress in the pic. She's looks so beautiful. And yeah, marriage fails so many times just because people won't simply talk things out.

You cannot honestly expect ONE person to do all the darn work in a marriage. It's hard at time and love for your spouse should lead you to trying, for them and the kids, if you have them.

I truly appreciate all your comments ladies. You are a joy to have inside of *A Place For Me* Such wonderful souls you are

There is nothing as beautiful as a face full of love. These two are beaming.

I'm diggin her wedding dress too. I usually thing wedding dresses are blah, but not hers. And yeah, they look great sitting together. I'd like to see photos of these two standing up posing. That would be lovely.